You take one small step forward, you commit to one particular action, and then you take a second step. By saying yes in the moment to the immediate task at hand, you gradually build your commitment to heal: "Yes, I will go to therapy today and be present." or
"Yes, this morning when I need to reach out,
I will call a friend."
If you see yourself at the center of your own healing process, able to make decisions and choices about what happens to you,
it is easier to make the commitment to heal.
Knowing that you are in control that you won't be forced to do anything against your will,
is crucial to feeling safe in your feelings and your coping,
as you heal.
If you are in the early stages of the healing process, you may be too inundated with memories and feelings of your past behaviors and find it difficult to heal.
You slowly learn new coping skills and
start making choices about healing.
Ultimately, you will realize that you have a choice about your healing process and be able to ask yourself, "Am I willing to go one step further in trusting this person?"
"Am I willing to go one step further to share my feelings
with a friend or support person or therapist?"
Making frightening risks about sharing your feelings is part of the healing process.
One step at a time.
Think of these questions to ask yourself.
Am I willing to take a risk with my feelings and share them?
What is the worst that could happen, could I be blamed or
condemned if I share my feelings to this person?
Am I willing to do one more exercise to take a step further in my healing?
Am I willing to schedule one thing a day just for fun, for pleasure, just for me?
Am I willing to take one risk today?
Am I willing to be uncomfortable just once today for the sake of healing?
Am I willing to heal today?
Willingness is not a static thing.
It is a decision made in the moment, by checking in with yourself
and paying attention to what you really feel.
Over and over again, many times a day, you can ask yourself,
"Am I willing...?"