Or many of the emotional criticisms are disguised statements of one's own unmet needs. Simply ask yourself this question. "In what way is my criticism of my partner also true of me?" Could it be that we, in our relationship, are attempting to exorcise a disowned, negative part of ourself by externalizing it, projecting it onto our partner, and then criticizing it?
Examining your criticisms of your partner is an excellent way to look at yourself. How can you increase your knowledge of your partner's inner world? The answer is, though improved channel of communication. To deepen your understanding of your partner's subjective reality, you can train yourself to communicate more effectively.