Reasonable changes can be taken by one who knows that if something does not work out they would still have learned and gained from the experience. This is our Adult part.
There may be delay and disappointment --- perhaps even pain --- in reaching the desired goal.
However not the devastation of being rendered helpless.
The antidote to the poison of feeling helpless (our lingering old Child part) is allowing oneself to be vulnerable whenever appropriate and recognizing that choices always exist.
The ability to exercise these options will result in life improvement empowers us and enables us to attain once "only wished for" and "dreamed of" places.
Taken from Breaking Free, Kardener/Kardener