Judging others and yourself increases fear and guilt, shutting the door on love.
Begin today by asking yourself the following questions:
1. If I stopped judging for one day, what would that day be like?
2. If I chose to concentrate on extending compassion instead of judgement,
how would my experience change?
3. If I devoted a day to love rather than judgment, how would I feel around other people?
The thought that you hold toward others affects how you feel about yourself.
For example, you cannot simultaneously feel hatred toward someone and feel love for yourself.
It would be like trying to exhale and inhale in the same moment.
You may have previously learned that it is both natural and healthy to judge situations and people, that it enables you to make good decisions.
Today, begin to retrain your mind to see that you negative judgements do nothing but created feelings of separateness. Love based thinking recognizes that any thought or action that condemns results in fear, guilt and aloneness.
Today, leave love free to exist undisturbed by your judgements.
Instead of judging and separating, look at the interdependency of all life, of which you are an integral part.
Determine to view all people and events without negative judgement.
When tempted to pass judgement, you can remind yourself,
"If I judge this person I will rob myself of love."
Begin to turn inward and allow love to be your guide.
Lee Jampolsky - Healing the Addictive Mind