Perfectionism is not a way to avoid shame. Perfectionism is a form of shame. Where we struggle with perfectionism, we struggle with shame.
Appreciate the beauty of the cracks. To claim the truths about who we are, where we come from, what we believe, and the very imperfection nature of our lives, we have to be willing to give ourselves a break and appreciate the beauty of our cracks or imperfections. To be kinder and gentler with ourselves and each other, To talk to ourselves the same way we'd talk to someone we care about.
Brene Brown, Daring Greatly.