In the beginning the "love" was with parents.
Later we find relationships all the way through life to meet these attachment needs. Failure to attach results in all kinds of complications.
The absence of love has many harmful consequences, ranging from failure to thrive to shortened lifespan, as well as a warped and stunted emotional and psychological existence.
There are many ways to get these attachment needs met. There are levels of attachment in addition to the personal attachment of friendship and partnering. Some attachment needs are met through group and through rituals.
In rituals, people find a sense of comfort by belonging to a church community, a sports team or a certain class. Each of these groups offer places where you can share goals, ideas, and common efforts.
There can be a feeling of belonging and importance.
On a more interpersonal level, we find a variety of friendships.
Fulfilling attachment and love requires the giving and the receiving of care and affection. In giving and receiving energy is released, and both people feel alive and connected.
It does not have to do with sharing objects,
it has to do with sharing essence.
Who you are is sharing with who someone else is. Both people are enriched and in this enrichment something new is created. It is called 'friendship.'
Several meaningful friendships are necessary
for each person, in order to fulfill attachment needs.
Sharon Cruse - Learning to Love Yourself.