Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them--we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.
As we think of shame and love the most pressing question is this:
Are we practicing love?
Yes, most of us are really good at professing it--sometimes ten times a day.
But are we walking the talk?
Are we being our most vulnerable selves?
Are we showing trust, kindness, affection, and respect to our partners?
It's not the lack of professing that gets us in trouble in our relationships,
it's failing to practice love that leads to hurt.
Brene Brown, Ph.D. ~ Daring Greatly