Although the tricky voice of the ego states, "It's really not your fault. You are a victim."
My willingness to look at my part, to be accountable and honest with myself gave me a new vantage point.
It was this taking responsibility that granted me true freedom and the ability to walk out of the prison of being victimized by this pattern.
Learning this lesson, I realized that if I accept emotionally based behaviors patterns that I don't or can't see, I will repeat this pattern.
Taking responsibility means taking ownership.
It means acknowledging that we have in fact participated even if on an unconscious level in the choices and actions that brought about painful event we have gone through.
This is alarming, only if we are not standing in knowledge that we are living our intended life-- the life that brings us the experience perfectly suited to our becoming the person we have always wanted to be.
When we take 100 percent responsibility for ourselves, we take responsibility not just for the circumstances of our lives but for our emotions and our internal world as well. We cannot heal what we cannot feel. In order to take back our power and regain control of our lives,
we must take ownership of our emotions.
This requires that we acknowledge and own the depth of our hurt and pain. Our painful emotion can push us back into the small defensive resistant shell of our old emotional wounds.
The disappointments, grudges, and resignation stemming from past betrayals may come up and drive us to retreat and protect ourselves.
Once we can recognize that we are trapped in the limited reality of our hurts, we have a choice. We can choose to continue to allow our thoughts, words and actions to be driven fear or we can choose to be guided by courage.
With courage as our compass, not only do we take responsibility for our lives in the present,
we take responsibility for our futures as well.
Debbie Ford - Courage