genuinely care about someone, no matter what happens and breathe... learn to relax physically, which helps the mind from racing. meet the children where they are. (there are no cookie cutter approaches) let go of expectations let children make their own goals/who are you? be in the moment. observation and listening... pause in responding/ behaviors and speaking be flexible. sharing the understanding they are part of a bigger whole, which leads to feeling responsible for yourself. be resilient, learn and model change. smile, laugh, have fun approach life with a positive attitude.
So many family systems are imprinted with old beliefs, family rules and rituals they do not realize, becoming stuck. Learning to identify the "fantasy you had for a family" and how some of those learned family rules and imprints can be challenged and redone to align with the current family system. When we become stuck in old rituals and beliefs sometimes we can't even see them.