'Death is not the tragedy; but the ten million times we deaden and close our hearts because experiences do not reflect
what we consider acceptable.' Stephen Levine.
If we are to unearth our whole emotional nature, we must first dig through the layers of old emotional pain that cover it up. This excavation typically unearths the corpses of many childhood losses - deaths of essential aspects of ourselves - those emotional parts that had to be denied to be acceptable.
We were not allowed to grieve at the time of those losses, and we grieve them now, we discover our phoenix like ability to be fully reborn out of those losses. This action creates awareness of our capacity to be fully feeling.
Our difficulty in dealing constructively with pain begins in childhood. Parent's efforts to protect children against any harsh reality - conflict in the family, the death of a pet - deprives them of practice handling pain. Whether its' minor
(such as disappointment or a failure) or major (such as the loss of a grandparent), children never learn they can experience pain, be deeply affected. and still recover and survive.
This is how we learn we have to be, or seem to be affected.
Taken from The Tao of Fully Feeling - Walker
what we consider acceptable.' Stephen Levine.
If we are to unearth our whole emotional nature, we must first dig through the layers of old emotional pain that cover it up. This excavation typically unearths the corpses of many childhood losses - deaths of essential aspects of ourselves - those emotional parts that had to be denied to be acceptable.
We were not allowed to grieve at the time of those losses, and we grieve them now, we discover our phoenix like ability to be fully reborn out of those losses. This action creates awareness of our capacity to be fully feeling.
Our difficulty in dealing constructively with pain begins in childhood. Parent's efforts to protect children against any harsh reality - conflict in the family, the death of a pet - deprives them of practice handling pain. Whether its' minor
(such as disappointment or a failure) or major (such as the loss of a grandparent), children never learn they can experience pain, be deeply affected. and still recover and survive.
This is how we learn we have to be, or seem to be affected.
Taken from The Tao of Fully Feeling - Walker
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