Lighthousee don't go running all over an island looking for boats to save. They just stand there shining!
How do we 'neutralize frustration' when we feel stuck? One of the biggest causes of unhappiness is from our internal world. Taking our unrealistic expectations away from relationships and also ourselves is most important! How do we put ourselves in more of a positive mindset? A positive mindset is a way to implement change from the inside out! The more we find access to one's humor and affection and understand our feelings, the more we are able to learn to self regulate and approach life from a different perspective. Foremost, pause..., breathe..., and make decisions using our head, heart and gut!
Never change your life for the sake of others because no one can play your role better than you can. So be yourself, you are the best!
The Wolves Within: A Cherokee Story
An old Grandfather said to his grandson, "Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times."
He continued, "It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, everything is an injustice done to him. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing. Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eyes and asked, "Which one wins, Grandfather?"
The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, "The one that I feed."
Neurofeedback has become known in addiction treatment as “The Great Equalizer”. An up and coming means of non-invasively changing the brain has been creating quite a stir in the mental healh community lately. Many clinicians refer to this holistic approach as a means for the brain to learn to function more efficiently.
Originally used for solutions for ADHD, the American Pediatric Society has endorsed neurofeedback for use along with psychotherapy in the treatment of ADHD in children. Amazingly, some children (and adults as well) have been able to reduce their ADHD medications after multiple neurofeedback sessions. “It’s like riding a bike”, says Chris Massman, MFTi, CDS, a well known therapist who specializes in addiction treatment in the San Fernando Valley. Chris indicates that she commonly works with neuorfeedback in her practice and explains her successes with clients. “Once the brain has been trained, it never forgets!” Chris went on to say, “The good news is that almost any brain, regardless of its level of function, can be trained to function better! In vast majority of my clients, the actual outcome exceeds the prior expectations.”
Current trends for addiction treatment centers implement treatment to include neurofeedback as part of their program. Not only used to treat addictions and ADHD, many therapists in private practice are also using neuorfeedback to treat issues such as anxiety, depression, OCD, sleep disorders, headaches and more. With the calming function of neuorfeedback, clients are able to access the executive functions in the executive center of the brain and respond to life more thoughtfully rather than with emotion and impulse, more or less a better self-regulation.
Originally know as biofeedback, neurofeedback is a means of showing the brain its own action from moment to moment. By rewarding the brain to change its own activity to more appropriate patterns, the gradual learning process begins. Neurofeedback is based on electrical brain activity measured by EEG. Simply stated, Neurofeedback is biofeedback applied to the brain directly. The training allows the nervous system to function better.
So who can say what science has in store for us, as we learn more and more about the brain? What a remarkable muscle, to be able to obtain better mental health. In fact, one practitioner’s biofeedback office has a sign in it which says, “We expect miracles. If none occur, something has gone wrong!”
What remains a miracle is really the unbelievable capacity of our own brains!