Being human and hushing 'the critics' allow us to figure out what we want, figure out the goals we wish to set and being flexible as we move towards those goals.
We teach our the children the most by believing in ourselves. To learn hopefulness, children need relationships that are characterized by boundaries, consistency, and support. Children with high levels of hopefulness have experirnce with adversity. They've been given the opportunity to struggle and in doing that, they learn how to believe in themselves. Raising children who are hopeful and who have the courage to be vulnerable means stepping back and letting them experience disappoint, deal with conflict, learn how to assert themselves and have the opportunity to fail.
"If we're always following our children into the arena, hushing the critics, and assuring their victory, they'll never learn that they have the ability to dare greatly on their own."
Brene Brown, Daring Greatly