When you find yourself looking to a drug, a job, food, material possessions, or a relationship for your happiness, it is because you are afraid, you have forgotten that you are love.
When you become like a child, seeing fearsome images in the dark, seeing attack and hostility all around you, your mind has forgotten that you are love, and in turn, you have become afraid.
When you have an endless resume of accomplishments and still don't feel good about yourself, love seems to be nowhere and you are afraid.
When you want nothing more than to feel the love of another, yet you continually armor yourself in defenses, it is because you are in an ironic dilemma.
You are afraid of that for which you yearn: Love.
When we pack our negative feelings down and avoid them, we are packing our feelings like molten rock of a volcano. Only held for so long, when the addict uses and gets high, these feelings come out, often in rage or deep depression and hopelessness. The more the addict numbs to run from the volcano, the volcano ultimately erupts when one's inhibitions are removed. The cycle creates a pattern of destructive behavior, self loathing, shame and despair.
Feelings are a healthy part of life and one can relearn how to feel and express positive and negative feelings alike.
Projection leads us into a world where fear is constantly reinforced. We end up being afraid of love and freedom. Instead of inviting love into our hearts we become hosts of guilt. We become surrounded by bars of fear, forged by our own thinking.
How to break the cycle of fear
1. Begin to talk about your feelings.
2. Begin to identify your irrational beliefs.
3. Begin to see that there is nothing you want to hide, even if you could.