Love becomes lost. How can your heart be open to love when it lies behind a fortress of fear?
When you defend yourself you believe that your defense, if strong enough, will protect you. Perhaps, when hurt, you are quick to erect defenses.
Those defenses keep you isolated and afraid.
You are mistaken if you think that your defenses protect you.
In fact, your defenses help perpetuate the cycle of attack and defend. Nobody builds defenses who does not have fear in his or her heart.
You make defenses because you fear attack. Yet with each new defense, your fear of attack increases. How can defenses offer safety when they escalate fear?
Today, recognize the truth about defenses.
Defense always bring what they were meant to guard against.
Defensiveness set us up to be in a cycle where you cannot be peaceful. Attack-defend-attack-defend. When you attack you push someone back away, so you don't have to defend.
When you defend you keep them at that distance.
Today, instead of making your armor thicker, invite love to replace your defenses. Love needs no defense. Love grows through being shared and its unaffected by time. Waiting for you, beneath your defenses is undisturbed peace you can find today.
If I defend myself I am attacked.
Love is what I want and love needs no defense.
Today I offer love instead of defensiveness.
Jampolsky - Healing the Addictive Mind