It also means keeping an open mind and being willing to change our ideas based on new and better information, not on the need for approval.
We don't need everyone to love us.
What we do need is a sense that we are real.
Only false selves have no enemies.
Only ineffective people cause no controversy.
Only fear based old feelings will keep us from finding our sense of self.
And only we can make the difference.
Nothing is going to change unless we make it change.
Deciding not to act is a choice.
"Remember that what we are not changing,
we are choosing." David Richo
Part of discovering the true self is knowing our own values, ideas, and opinions, and being able to express them and hold onto them in the face of differing viewpoints and without having to convince others that we are right .