You reached it, coasted along for a number of yours, then got old.
But in recent decades many researchers have explore the psychological and social changes that occur in adult years, especially during midlife, which is variously defended by generally considered to be between the ages of thirty-five and fifty-five. Midlife is sometimes seen as the noon of life, the period of highest achievement before again brings declines in mental and physical prowess. People at midlife realize that time no longer stretches ahead forever. While the midlife issues of individual have been examined extensively attention has been paid to marriage at this critical juncture. Couples sometimes move to the crossroads of change, just as individuals do.
At midlife the original task of marriage, separating from the families of origin and establishing new connections, must be solved anew. Now, however, the task is to separate from and make new connections with young adult children.
Both aspects of the task -- separating and reconnecting are important, and neither is easy. At this stage the issue is to let go of the marriage that was defined by children and to create in its place a new one in which the partners are once again focused on each other. The key is to reshape the marriage at midlife. Establish new connections with each other and separating from the adult children whose task is to launch. Separating and reconnecting, important, however, not easy.