If your life is ever going to change for the better, you will have to take chances.
You will have to get out of your rut, meet new people, explore new ideas and move along unfamiliar pathways. In a way the risks of self growth involve going into the unknown, into an unfamiliar land where the language is different and customs are different and you have to learn your way around.
When we are ready to grow, we are ready to give up the way we usually see ourselves, which is risky. After all, our old reliable self -- no matter how inadequate or unworthy -- that is the only sense of self we know. What happens if we lose our old self and nothing takes place?
What happens if we obliterate the very essence of our being -- ourselves!
As we take risks, as we move in the direction of growth, we start taking new "pictures" of ourselves, if only in our imagination. We decide we are ready to give up false beliefs, compromises, poor relationships, superficial attachments and self destructive habits. Relinquishing these ingrained aspects of our lives can be difficult, but its absolutely necessary.
There is also an undercurrent of fear that pulse through incessantly,
a message from the scared inner child,
"I am unlovable, I had better settle for what I have,
I'd better not take any chances."
Yet the paradox is that until we give up all that feels secure, we can never really trust the friend, mate, or job that offers us something.
True personal security does not come from without,
it comes from within.
When we are really secure,
we must place our total trust in ourselves.
Sharon Cruse ~ Learning to Love Yourself.