"We see incidents from our past as horrible experiences, terrible experiences, dark experiences, when in truth they are really enlightened experiences because they help us become who we are."
James Van Praahg
When we are going through continuous pain and harboring resentments, it is because have attached negative interpretations and feelings to the experiences we have had and are unwilling to give them up.
It is our interpretations of events that continue to either hurt us or empower us. The meanings we choose to assign to the painful events of our lives have the power to either ground us in the past or support us in charging forward into our future.
When we comprehend the real cost of holding on to any kind of grudge or resentment, we can begin to make the more powerful choice to forgive.
The costs are steep, but the results literally change the entire direction of our lives. It is crucial to take inventory of what our resentments are robbing us of and how they are depleting our power and light.
Holding on to resentments and grudges does the following:
Lowers our self-esteem
Separates us from ourselves
Keep us dis-empowered and living in the past
Prevents us from healing underlying wounds
Keeps us a victim
Undermines our confidence
Makes us guarded instead of open
Drains our energy
Makes us old, angry, and tired
Diminishes our courage
Robs us of fulfilling relationships
Blinds us to new opportunities
Compromises our health
Our grudges and resentment can literally rob us of our greatest desires.
Basking in the humility of our soul's mission here on earth, we are released from the unchanging story line of the wounded ego and are able to see new possibilities for the contributions we are here to make.
Holding grudges and blaming are acts of the ego while surrender and forgiveness are acts of the heart and soul.
In each moment, this is the choice we make: to align either with our ego or with the divine love within all of us. As our heart open, we step into grace and flow of the miracles that life is offering us never-endingly.
Debbie Ford - Courage