we are being honest.
But this definition of honesty needs to be broadened, for real honesty means ...
consistency between what we say, what we do, and what we think.
To know oneself is to be honest. We cannot truly know ourselves as long as we hold grievances;
they are like iron doors hiding the light of forgiveness from our minds.
Holding grievances means forgetting that we are love itself. When we are holding on to grievances we are letting the ego rule our lives. Because the ego uses denial, blame and projection as its primary tools, it is clearly dishonest. Today it is important to see the effects that holding grievances has upon our minds. When we clearly see this we will be sufficiently motivated to let them go.
Holding grievances means that we are denying that we are worthy of love. We cannot condemn and at the same time feel any sense of unity. When we hold onto grievances we are seeing ourselves as split off from our higher power, and other people.
In short, holding grievances shuts us off from knowing ourselves. Giving even one grievance any power begins a whole series of attack thoughts---of blaming---all of which lead to fear and separation. Holding on to grievances is nothing short of denying love.
"Love holds no grievances. Let me not betray my Self."
Jampolsky ~ The Art of Trust