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Playing and laughing together as a couple
is a basic need that brings couples together.
When couples have a lot of fun together they identify each other
as a source of pleasure and safety,
which intensifies the emotional bond and partners
connect to each other on a deeper level.
A useful and fun tool to move towards each other
is to begin to write love notes to each other.
It is going to feel strange at first to start writing notes to each other.
The only way to change this feeling is to begin the new behavior
and do it often enough so that it begins to feel familiar and therefore safe.
Take some time in your marriage or relationship
to share your thoughts and feelings about your partner.
Commit to a period of time, even if it causes anxiety.
The anxiety will subside and the caring exercise can
become a comfortable, reliable tool for growth.
How wonderful to look forward to get notes
from the person you love!